Setting Boundaries That Protect Your Me-Time

Setting Boundaries That Protect Your Me-Time

When you begin to implement a self-care routine, you may find that you run into some opposition. You are introducing change. As with any new habit, chances are good that you’ll have some trouble adjusting and getting used to new ideas. Time and practice will help you overcome any personal resistance. Here’s why setting boundaries that protect your me-time is so important:

However, you’re not the only person you may be up against once you start prioritizing your own needs. Unfortunately, friends and family may have a problem with your new focus. Read on to learn why this occurs and how to set boundaries that protect your me-time.

Why The Resistance?

Claiming time for yourself can be scary to the people who are closest to you. Even though they may want what’s best for you, they may fear that prioritizing yourself will take you away from them in some way. Perhaps they’re afraid they’ll lose time with you or that you’ll move on without them. Unfortunately, there may be those who don’t have your best interests at heart. These folks see you claiming time for yourself as limiting them in some way, and they don’t like it.

Tell Your Story

In order to overcome resistance in well-meaning individuals, there are some steps you can take. Tell them why this time for self-care is important to you. Let them know what you hope to gain from putting your own needs first. Often when people understand that doing things for yourself isn’t about taking anything away from them, they will be more ready to support you.

Ask for Understanding

Once you’ve let those close to you know why it is you’re pursuing acts of self-care, you may choose to go a step further and ask them to understand what it is you need from them. After all, they’ll be better able to support you if they know what that kind of support looks like. Perhaps you may wish to let your family know that you’ll need an hour of alone time when you come home from work in order to unwind. Maybe this will involve telling your significant other that you’d appreciate some extra help with the kids so you can attend to your currently neglected needs. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need.

Setting Boundaries That Protect Your Me-Time

Setting Boundaries That Protect Your Me-Time

Stand Firm

 Finally, you may need to stand firm in your boundaries. This is especially true with regard to those who might be more concerned with their own needs over yours. If you’ve explained yourself and someone still wants to be upset about your boundaries, you don’t owe them anything further. Part of setting aside time for yourself is prioritizing your own needs. This process may require you to be ruthless when others object. You have the right to claim your time.

 Now that you understand the type of resistance you may encounter on your quest for self-care, you’re more prepared to counter any objections. Use the steps above to guide you and don’t be afraid to stand up for what you need.

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3 Steps To Real Happiness

3 Steps To Real Happiness

People are always searching for happiness. Why? It’s that one elusive part of the whole human puzzle that’s hard to find. Common things like money, a better job, better relationships often form the basis of the search to become happy. To find true joy and contentment, look inside yourself to become your own best friend.
Consider using these 3 Steps to Real Happiness:

1. Embrace an Attitude of Gratitude.

Ask yourself this question: Do you take certain aspects of your life for granted? — such as food and water, your health, time, friends and family, your significant other? The renowned author Aldous Huxley once wrote, “Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted.”

  • Shift your attitude to see things in a more positive manner. You won’t have to change anything about your external circumstances.
  • Happiness is an inside job. Optimistic individuals are thankful for what they have and are content.
  • Our mind and body are interdependent. Harmony in the body, mind and soul is the answer to supreme happiness and wellness. Reaching this stasis should be an important goal for every individual.

2. Silence Your Inner Critic

Your inner nay-sayer may be one of the biggest contributors to your self-sabotage. It causes you to get in your own way. You avoid the things that could ultimately propel you forward toward living your best life. Here are a few things you can do to become more positive and happier:

  • Lift yourself up – don’t put yourself down. No one can change for the better when filled with negative thoughts. The more positively you treat yourself, the happier you will be.
  • Give yourself definite rewards. You’re in charge of you. Don’t expect others to always applaud you. If the expected compliment does not materialize, you may become bitter. Are you proud of what you’ve done? savor that satisfaction. Feel the positive happiness!!

Enjoy your successes. Get busy. You may not be ready to confront your negative self-talk directly, but you can take steps toward the things you desire. The smallest actions will give you confidence and fuel your motivation.

3 Steps To Real Happiness

3 Steps To Real Happiness

3. Be Practical About Attaining Your Goals

  • Create specific goals to work toward when building your best life. Make it a daily goal to appreciate everything and everyone that makes you thankful.
  • Set some goals and begin to implement them. You may need to break them down into particular areas of your life.
  • Separate your goals into categories of personal, career, financial, leisure, and more. Use whatever categorization makes sense for you and your goals. Breaking things down in this way gives you a clearer picture in order to create a more specific vision of your best life.

 Remember: “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things” (Albert Einstein)




3 Steps to Greater Self-Love

3 Steps to Greater Self-Love

Love yourself

A powerful and healthy self-love is one of the main building blocks of a joyful and healthy you. With your robust self-love you can have the confidence to do well in the world, and the self-esteem to make good decisions. Having a negative viewpoint comes from not being completely positive about yourself.   To locate the positive self-love in your life, start with what’s stunning about yourself. Practice day by day affirmations so you can remind yourself how wonderful you are. 

Start a daily self-love routine and stick to it. This causes you to deal easily with whatever unsettling circumstances popping up.

Here are 3 tips on how to develop your self-love:

Identify What Makes YOU Feel Great

Make a List

  • Compile a list of pros and cons of what you do and don’t care for about yourself. Be explicit and oppose the tendency to simply compose things like “I loathe my body”. Pick out definite things you do like about yourself. Look at this list objectively. When you are quite certain about things you DO like, you may find that you have less to dislike than you might suspect.

Practice Self-Care

Have great care for yourself

  • Exercise, eat right and get a lot of rest. These things are essential to ensure a healthy mind, body and soul to support you in your daily life. Getting enough rest for your own wellbeing will guarantee your personal best, physical welfare and psychological wellness. While you rest, your body is repairing itself on the physical and cellular level. It keeps up your physical and mental wellbeing.
  • Give yourself lots of positive self-talk. Always treat yourself well – Silence that inner critic.
  • Have a good time every once in a while, or treat yourself to something special. Do simple things like indulging yourself with a good book or doing a home spa treatment. Such activities can do wonders for your self-esteem!

Set Realistic Goals to Achieve What You Want

 Set personal goals for yourself.

  • They give you something to anticipate and achieve. Resist the urge to make unrealistic goals. Plan small, realistic goals that you will always have something to look forward to. Set up a reward system as well when you accomplish a goal.

Goals should be: S M A R T

S – specific so you know what you will do and how

M – measurable with specific criteria to measure obtaining the goal

A – attainable and able to achieve

R – reasonable and within your capabilities

T – timely with specific starting and target (end) dates



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