Why don’t most people really know what they want? That’s a good question to ask yourself. Walk into a busy shopping mall and ask some people at random what they want. The vast majority would not be able to tell you.

You would get answers like:

“I don’t really know”

“I haven’t thought about it”

“I am not sure”

If you don’t know what you really want from your life, then you will never get it. You need clarity here. So, make a commitment now to think about what you really want in the short term and the long term.

how to decide what you really want

how to decide what you really want

Why don’t people know what they want?

You would think that as highly intelligent creatures every member of the human race would know what they want from life. After all they have this wonderful thing called a brain, but the problem is they don’t know how to use it properly. Humans can achieve anything. Look around you and see what we have invented and created.

But thinking about what we really want takes effort and focus. Many people would prefer to do something that takes very little thought such as wasting their time on social media.

There’s a message here – if you really want to get what you desire, then you need to put in the effort to get it. Start with thinking through what improvements you want to make in different areas of your life. Put your phone on silent, turn off the TV and any other distractions and take the time out to design your life going forward.

How to decide what you want

Get a pen and plenty of paper and find somewhere quiet where you won’t be disturbed. How long will this take you? Well it depends – we are talking about shaping your destiny here so how long it takes should not be an issue for you. It will take as long as it takes.

Try using positive visualization to focus. Divide a sheet of paper in two by drawing a line in the middle. On the left hand side make a heading “things I don’t want” and on the right “things I do want”. Then start thinking about different areas of your life and write down the details of what you REALLY want in your life.  You can use such areas as:

  • Your finances
  • Your relationships
  • Your job or business (how you make money)
  • Your personal life
  • Your hobbies
  • Your health and well-being

Doing this exercise will give you clarity about a desired dream you wish to attain.

Go from a dream to attainment

Here are some easy steps to attain that important dream you discovered in the exercise above.

  1. Decide what you want
  2. Believe you can have it
  3. Believe it is possible for you
  4. Establish your priorities
  5. Make a plan
  6. Take action

Focus on what kind of life you really want and say NO to everything that stands in the way of your goals.

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